Jealousy

Feeling so depressed about this. Having very, very dark thoughts 😞

Lack of sleep due to neighbour noise is killing me!

I know they say never compare your situation but it's so hard.

Hi,

Jealousy won't help you in any way. You don't know what health challenges she has. Also she has probably been waiting for a council property for much longer. Myself and my 3 teenage sons were put in one hotel room all 4 of us as emergency temporary accommodation. We stayed there for a month. And then we were put in a flat 2 hours away from my children's school on the 2nd floor with no lift and i have mobility issues. I took it because it was better than hotel. We are still here. Some families had been living in hotel for MONTHS. Try to be grateful you have a roof above your heads and figure out your next move. My friend was in temporary accomodation for 10 years before she got a beautiful council property and she had gotten cancer in that time. The Housing list thing would depend on your council. What council are you under? It's best to get advice. I wish you all the best.

If you have dark thoughts and feel suicidal. Seek medical help.

I knew you’d get replies to tell you that you should be grateful.

I’m honestly sick to death of hearing other people telling others that they should be grateful that they have a roof over their head.

You shouldn’t be living in the accommodation you are living in with your children.

You don’t have to be grateful and you have every right to feel jealous.

That may be the wrong word, but you have every right to feel all the emotions you are feeling.

Unfortunately, you haven’t got lucky with accommodation and no one should have to live with their children the way you living.

Thr impact it is having on you all mentally and will become physically

I live in a huge house with my father right now, because my life took a 360.

I have a two-year-old son through IVF, and his father cheated on me prior to the IVF getting another girl pregnant, then going through two rounds of IVF with me.

my sons dad got mixed up with the wrong family and they have now put in prison for 11 years.

circumstances, changes for people.

I was secure, had a mortgage working towards a family, working professional.

circumstances, changes for people.

I’m now 37 with a two-year-old single living with my father who I have a toxic relationship with, and he is emotionally abusive, who is selling his house and I’m waiting to be made homeless.

All I want to do is rent privately.

There’s no way in the world, I want to be thrown into a hostel or a B&B, then temporary accommodation.

Should I be grateful for that… Nah.

Having a comfortable, secure home is extremely important, and a human right for every single person.

We all know that where someone is living, can have a huge impact on that person and even their children.

As you wish. I'm a disabled single mom with triplets. Lived in same house for 10 years until landlord decided to sell.

My sons are doing GCSEs this year and had mocks while we were living in the worst hotel ever. And all in one tiny room eating one meal a day. Everyone has a story.

Don't be grateful and keep being jealous about someone elses life instead of working out how to sort yours. See how that works out. Nobody is stopping anyone from going to work and paying rent to private landlord. At the end of the day there are people in worse situations who have nowhere to stay and can't get any help.

At the end of the day, UK is totally f****d, ther should be social housing for everyone, not just one in a million.

You could always write to your local M.P and tell them the effects its having you.

It's about time you got an affordable rent that nobody can come along and evict you from.

Nobody should have to live like that. You can email your M.P for your area it sometimes does help. Some do A drop in morning where you can go and speak face to face. Google your M.P and you will get all the information from there.

Don't be jealous of your friend, its not her fault. She's probably been on the waiting list for years, whereas you only went on it recently. You also mention she was living at her mums with her 2 children, so chances are they were overcrowded which the council class as high priority. Its understandable you're feeling down about your situation, but don't take it out on your friend. It's not her fault.

Yes, this is good constructive advice, and this is what she should be doing instead of blaming her friend, because that won't get her anywhere. Direct your anger at the right people, that's what I always say.

It's not easy and no it's not a fair system. I was on the council waiting list for 13 years before I got an offer. It does appear that those who shout loudest get heard, though in my case a lot of prayer involved. Get a doctors appointment if your mental or physical health is suffering due to the placement and then email your local mp outlining the problems and how it's affecting you to ask for assistance. In the meantime get a dehumidifier for damp, ear plugs for sleep and give it a lick of paint to cheer it up. X

Hi Joanna

I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here in Netmums. You normally find us in the drop in clinic.

It sounds like an incredibly difficult situation with housing and it is having an impact on you all. You have had some good advice about housing options here on thread. But I wanted to ask about your mental health. You mentioned dark thoughts. Perhaps you could come over to the drop in clinic - we have a mental health board you might want to post on for some support