My toddler doesn't point or wave

43 answers /

Last post: 16/01/2024 at 10:05 am

ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
06/08/2015 at 8:28 am
As above ... And it's really stressing me out. He does seem noticeably behind his peers in this respect. He does clap but has been doing that for months. Can anyone offer any reassurance? Sorry, super anxious first time mum!!
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
06/08/2015 at 8:37 am
I should say he's 14 months
0
FIONA B(627)
Fiona B(627)
06/08/2015 at 9:01 pm
Mine doesn't point...I quite like that!

I'm sure they will do things in their own time!
0
HAZEL K(46)
Hazel K(46)
06/08/2015 at 9:34 pm
You should ask your health visitor for assessment. Has he had his 1 year check?
Are there any other signs of possible issues? Is he affectionate, feeding you, cuddling lots, issuing kisses.

CDC | Signs & Symptoms | Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) | NCBDDD

CDC | Milestones 1 Year | Learn the Signs. Act Early. | NCBDDD
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
06/08/2015 at 9:41 pm
My son didn't really point at that age either, i think it was because I didn't do it? I started doing it more and he soon started doing it and still does
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
06/08/2015 at 9:57 pm
Mine has only just started pointing and he's almost 14 months. He did used to wave but only to the bath thermometer but even that's stopped now😏. I'm not overly worried I think he's better at other things.
0

Heard the latest?

Stay in the loop with our daily NEWS email

I have read and understood Netmums' Privacy Notice and Terms & Conditions

ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 6:23 am
Thanks ladies. No he's not an affectionate child but does feed us, show us toys, bring his favourite books to us, makes good eye contact and is very sociable. He loves the company of other children and plays well. Can't help worrying about it though
0
TS
TS
07/08/2015 at 10:56 am
In answer to
Anonymous
Thanks ladies. No he's not an affectionate child but does feed us, show us toys, bring his favourite books to us, makes good eye contact and is very sociable. He loves the company of other children and plays well. Can't help worrying about it though
Hi Sophie

Does he smile & laugh? x
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 11:36 am
Yes. A lot!
0
TS
TS
07/08/2015 at 11:51 am
So he feed you, shows you his toys, shows you his favourite books, makes good eye contact and is very sociable, loves the company of other children and plays well and also smiles & laughs.

Sounds pretty normal to me.

My son turned 1 at the end of July and does all of the above, we sing lots of nursery rhymes with him and he does the actions for wheels on the bus.  Try singing Twinkle Twinkle little star and makes the action of pointing to a star, or a nursery rhyme he loves.   If he does all of the above he will pick it up in no time.  As for waving, we wave at everything that goes by or if any of us go out of the room we wave.  You could try "If you’re happy and you know it wave goodbye" do it over and over and he will pick it up.

Try not to get too stressed about it, he really sounds like he's doing great.
0
Can't find your answer?
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 1:33 pm
Hi. My 18 month old hardly ever waves. He can, and will do it but only when he wants to and not routinely when saying bye to people.
I really wouldn't worry.
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 5:42 pm
Thank you mummies. I guess we'll just keep practising!
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 6:07 pm
My dd didn't wave, clap or point until after she had turned 2 - I would try to teach her these things and she would just look at me blankly!!  She is nearly 4 now and a very bright little girl so it turned out not to be anything to worry about!

My ds is 19 months old and has been clapping for a few months and has just very recently started waving and pointing!
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 6:26 pm
If that's the only things he's not doing and his development seems fine then it doesn't sound like anything to worry about. My lo is the same age and points at everything while shouting ta! very loudly. It's so annoying lol x
0
ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
07/08/2015 at 7:10 pm
Our son didn't point until well after his first birthday.  In the end, as I was so worried, I used to actually get his finger in position and point for him.  Eventually he started doing it himself! He was the same with waving, we had to teach him how to hold his hand to wave properly.  We did find we had to do this with other things too, eg tipping a watering can or scooping and pouring.  My son is now a very bright nine year old with no issues! I think some children are more experimental and observant than others and my son just didn't try things out on his own so we had to show him.  My daughter on the other hand has done everything on her own very early....but then she's got a big brother to copy!  Think the fact that your son is your first may have something to do with it....
0

Netmums Newsletters

Yes, please! I want the best parenting news around

*By signing up you accept Netmums' Privacy Policy and Terms & Conditions.