Caught my boyfriend cheating - Page: 2

Heya,

The same happened to me quite a few years ago. I would definitely go to the woman and tell her you know and ask her to tell you the whole truth of what has happened between him and her otherwise it will drive you insane not knowing. If something has happened, and you find out from her then you have the chance to come to terms with it and heal from the trauma. I did the same and I found out a lot of stuff that he never told me.

Sorry that you are having to go through this, I hope you get closure

If it were me I would do it, but I'd be clever about it to ensure I got the information I needed and not give her too much about what you do and do not know. Question her don't threaten to tell her husband unless it's an absolute must. At the end of the day you are looking to confirm whether your husband is telling the truth. See if what she has to say matches what he's saying, or she could potentially lie also and then you have two version of events potentially both lies. Also she could message your husband prior to responding to you so they can corroborate their stories. I think at the end of the day, you've been betrayed and if you feel you need to reach out in the first place, that says volumes. I've had many lies told to me when I've had the evidence staring in my face and chose to stay. To this day I still get lied to about it even after I've left (we have a child together) but when it happens recurrently and it becomes a pattern then it's hard to believe the lies.

If you block on text then it automatically blocks on WhatsApp. It's the same number. He is lieing to you.

It's your decision whether to challenge her however where is it going to get you. No where. Why would you want to? You could make things worse for you with how you feel.

You need to focus on whether you are going to stay with him or not.

Doesn’t matter how sour it looks this woman has helped to possibly break her family up! I don’t think any of them will actually tell the truth why would they when there happy to go behind there partners backs. So yes I also think that woman’s husband has the right to know it would be unfair not to tell him as they could still carry on while this poor man is left in the dark.

Get what information you can put of her then send it all to her husband he deserves to know too if her husband had found all this out would you rather he kept quiet and left u to be cheated on or would you rather he contacted you so you could make an informed decision?

Ask her what went on find out her side then tell her bloke her and your bloke/ex made this mess let them clean the fall out

This!!

You need to get rid of him that’s an absolute cert! I’d also be tempted to send any proof to her partner too. She’s helped him wreck your life (temporarily, cos you’ll bounce back and be happier than ever without the lying toad) do the same in return to her life. Her partner/husband deserves to know.

What do you want for you? You’re passing all control to him of you and your emotions. If it were me I’d respect myself retain my dignity and leave the dynamic and get a plan in place for contact and support of your kids. He’s not changing behaviours and if he is a narc this will repeat the rest of his life. Whether you’re in his life or not. Inner peace over doubt and anxiety. When the trusts gone that’s it. You just have to be willing to face and own your decision or cycle will repeat.

If you want your marriage to work accept what has happened I think you know and don’t get into an altercation with the woman not worth the lies,leave him and move on is my advice but if you want marriage to work tell him your not stupid and you know don’t torture yourself with the details and ruining another marriage respect yourself let him know that you know and don’t accept the lies and see what happens

Hi Amy I have to say that I am so impressed by your decision to be the better person who is going to look epic when people see you holding your head up high and I am confident that you are destined to be with the Man who deserves to be with you and your heart and soul will be singing.

You either trust him or not.

The problem is between you two, no one else

If you need proof then you don't trust him.

I wouldn't contact her because there is no reason to.

If you don't believe him now you have already decided he is lying.

The question is:

Is your relationship fixable and do you both want to fix it.

Sorry Craig didn't unclick the direct reply button.

Hello

im so sorry you’ve gone through this, I myself have gone through something similar. I personally confronted the woman and did it in a calm way and she told me nothing had really happened but again I didn’t fully believe what she was telling me. Fast forward 8 yrs on we’ve worked through it but it’s takes a lot of time and patience and I’m not the same person I was but our relationship is strong and our communication is 100% better than it was. If I ever thought it had happened again that would be the end of us as once is a mistake twice is a choice

hope you get some resolution and peace xx

I wouldn't forgive mine, if he's messaging back and forth & they work together

Something has definitely happened between them.

So I wouldn't trust a thing he says. Me personally I'd end the relationship

But also as petty as it may sound

I would send all the messages between them two to the woman's husband :)

I would also write on the top of the messages × I thought you may like to see what your wife has been doing at work with my partner ×

I would also call him to warn him before sending the messages

I couldn't care less if it affects her life in anyway she made the decisions she can now deal with the consequences. I feel bad for you