Husband is addicted to sexting with females online, im jealous
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Last post: 03/02/2024 at 9:39 pm
We both are 30 now.I love my husband very much, we live together in britain, we have no kid yet. We live together for 2 years, together 3 years. I was thinking he is the best man who i ever found. He was showing me love, sex life is best. He always says, how he loves me very much. I am attractive curvy girl with sexi smile, and i have lots of attention from men. I had before him 2 boyfriends, he had 2 girlfriends.
He showes me his love, care, we have regular sex, no problem, im very comfortable with him to sleep each day, or make oral sex with him. thats really not issue. So he has care from my sice about it. But he is always on the phone even at night like sick!, he works from home mostly, and he is always on phone, i by mistake found out that he downloaded secretly dating websites, badoo, snapchat and etc. Or he uses instagram with fake profiles (which i didnt know) and other platforms. I was shocked. I snooped a bit his lphone. i found on on his phone very strange girls.
Their messages was mostly sexual explicit. I got shocked, i was shivering, These messages were kinky and really perverted from HIS side. He knows very well. that im a quite jealous, but he is doing this frequently. Despite he knows that its disturbing me and making me insecure and jealous. Smtz i think he has some narcistic or mental disorder.
Of course mostly all conversations he delete frewuently on telegram, but one woman was messaging him, when i took the phone, he registered as a “ hottie chick”. i felt horrible, my life destroyed. She messaged to him „ my babe im horny where are you can we talk?“( suich of talks i found maybe 4 times during 1 year) i confronted him, i cried a much i had some hystery, i couldnt understand who is this woman. But her number was from Ukraine or russia ! He didnt tell me anything, he just played „ nothing“, he was angry to me and mad. He didnt explain! He told me, that he doesnt know her, and he is some stranger thats it. I found out in his laptop also lots of porn downloaded, or just in history i found he is each day watching.
Later on i found that he is messaging some girls on instagram, FB as well, randomly, he doesnt know them even- he is messaging globally, from america to asutralia everybody. When he sees some sexi hot woman online, he is immediately messaging her and disturbing her, how she is beautoful, sexi, how he wanna „ f**k her so bad. And he is also messaging like this some of his friends on FB, but they dont know me.
he is also checking naked nudes photos on eskort websites probably he jerks off above them. He always find some sexi girls, talking to them first politely, then developing sexual dicussion, some sexual offers, he denies each time all, he never told truth to me. He sweared that he never touched another woman in real.
It is like a sickness or i dont know. he is saying “ it is nothing important , he is talking casually with girls about sex too but it doesnt mean that he wants them physically“ , he told me, that he never ever cheated on me, i dont understand why? he has me, we always talk a lot, we have fun, sex, all. There is nothing wrong between us, he has everything with me. He is saying me that im so important for him and excellent woman.
I asked him, that why you are doing that. He couldnt respond, he went crazy, and he started to be aggresive to me many times. Our arguments are only because of this topic.
it is just “ sexting” randomly with strangers ladies. of course this made me so sad, depressed. I asked sexuologist, he told me, its probably, that he is doing this for thrill excitement like a small boy and he wants thrill and he got bored from me. Also sexuologist told me, that maybe he is sexually addicted and porn addicted. Maybe he sees sexting with strangers as a interactive porn.
My hubby explained to me, that sexting is some kind of verbal porn for him and he would never go physically. But how can i believe him? Also some words abouzt how men cant be monogamous and etc. Im doubtful anymore, insecure, and i feel like he is cheating on me. It hurts my women´s heart and my privacy, its disturbing me. I want him to be only mine. I dont want open relationship.
Then later on i got angry, so i tried to do also some kind of sexting with one stranger online, a man, but i didnt enjoy it, it was horrible i felt quilty, how possible that he doesnt feel guilty ???? if he love sme ??? he knows that its wrong and its emotional cheating.
I found out him masturbating at night as well many times with these girls online, or calling them while i was sleeping. Despite we have sex each day.
he is still keeping quiet, he is not explaining, he doesnt want to visit sexuologist and therapist. He is saying me always, im horny, i have high libido thats it, im addicted to sex, but i have never cheated on you, believe me. He also admitted that he was before addicted to masturbation and he masturbated on porn about 7 times daily before we married.
But its for me completely sick! Im loosing my mind, are you going through same things ? Please motivate me and support me somehow. I dont know what to do. I cant have sex with him 24 hours daily.. I have sex with him just 30 minutes daily, and im tired. Im working and etc. Im still trying, but what can i do more ? thanks melis
i forgot,
again i found out some another girl, and i wrote her on instagram i wanted to learn what they are talking,
i was texting with her what he told her, and how he was acting, she told me, he always wanted sexual topics, he told her, how he is horny and how he wants sex, he is obsessed with sex. i got sad from it very much.
i forgot,
again i found out some another girl, and i wrote her on instagram i wanted to learn what they are talking,
i was texting with her what he told her, and how he was acting, she told me, he always wanted sexual topics, he told her, how he is horny and how he wants sex, he is obsessed with sex. i got sad from it very much.
Honestly, you need to consider whether this is the right relationship for you to be in. It's only a matter of time before he's sleeping with someone else behind your back.
Honestly, you need to consider whether this is the right relationship for you to be in. It's only a matter of time before he's sleeping with someone else behind your back.
honestly, i thought also about divorce, but we are too young, i love him, i want to give him child, i cant understand why he is doing that to me behind my back.
i talked with 1 psychologist, 1 sexuologist online about my problem, but he doesnt want to change his behaviours.
I dont know if he can really
he is very much family orientated, he told me, he have never cheated his ex gfs, and he also never cheated on me,
but im feeling disturbed even from " online cheating", because he is giving energy, sexual thoughts to another girls online who he even doesnt know much, or maybe doesnt know at all, some his fb friends from all the globe.
i cant understand why he is so much sexually flirting with females, its really pretty unacceptable for me. as i mentioned to him 10 times, otherwise we have no problem in relationship, but im so jealous, its making me crazy, when he is giving sexual attention to another females in online world, maybe even offline ? i have no idea, but he also messaged sometimes some eskorts for sexting, but they didnt respond him, because they fist want payment of course.
So is finding each time another girl for sharing sexual stuffs and photos.
Its hurts me very crazy much, i explained, nothing works on him.
even he sometimes doesnt want to go with me " for example for shopping and walking out", he prefers to stay home alone, because he wantes to connect dating websites and do sexting, it makes him so excited. Once i came back home earlier, and he was in shower making sexting with one female online on camera, and he was jerking off, i got mad and we had terrible fight. later on he told me, that he couldnt keep himself, because he was so horny and he needed to jerk off, ! i told that omg i was out only 2 hours, you couldnt wait me ? he told me, no i was extreme horny and i didnt know when you come, It broke my trust.
but i know, that he is not doing this personally with them, he loves to be stranger on the internet and make flirts, what he is trying to do , just simple jerk off ?( but he has a porn omg), or just hw wants flirts or just he wants increase his ego? i cant understand anything from him. But it scares me, when i leave him alone at home what will happen.
Honestly, you need to consider whether this is the right relationship for you to be in. It's only a matter of time before he's sleeping with someone else behind your back.
and he has sex with me regular and good quality sex btw, why he is seeking this outside of marriage ? i dont understand point of this. he never tells truth about it. im sick of jealousy, i got old during this one year ( when i know this) have panic attacks when i see him online even when im at work because i know that he is vhatting with sluts and doing sexting.
and he has sex with me regular and good quality sex btw, why he is seeking this outside of marriage ? i dont understand point of this. he never tells truth about it. im sick of jealousy, i got old during this one year ( when i know this) have panic attacks when i see him online even when im at work because i know that he is vhatting with sluts and doing sexting.
You say he isn't doing this personally - yet. But it is well-known that, in all sorts of ways, people will behave in one way but gradually worsen their behaviour. What happens when he gets bored of sexting, which he probably will in time. He will want more and more, and that might mean meeting some of these people.
I understand what you are saying about not wanting to leave him and I'm not saying you should - but what happens if, in 2 or 5 or 10 years time, you find out that he's been sleeping with other women behind your back? Or he starts to spend money on camgirls and before you know it, he's spent ££££ that you don't have.
He needs to understand that a) it is isn't acceptable, b) it's causing you real pain, and c) it needs to stop. If he can't understand and respect that you are upset, he doesn't deserve you. He may need professional help.
You say he isn't doing this personally - yet. But it is well-known that, in all sorts of ways, people will behave in one way but gradually worsen their behaviour. What happens when he gets bored of sexting, which he probably will in time. He will want more and more, and that might mean meeting some of these people.
I understand what you are saying about not wanting to leave him and I'm not saying you should - but what happens if, in 2 or 5 or 10 years time, you find out that he's been sleeping with other women behind your back? Or he starts to spend money on camgirls and before you know it, he's spent ££££ that you don't have.
He needs to understand that a) it is isn't acceptable, b) it's causing you real pain, and c) it needs to stop. If he can't understand and respect that you are upset, he doesn't deserve you. He may need professional help.
i think he doesnt cheat on me physically, but i cant be sure 100%. of course. its just my guessing, because he is family orientated, and he stills tell me, how he so mich loves me, because im attractive and sweet woman and very educated.
but his libido is so high, his sex drive is just alarming.
he is porn and sex addicted, he told me when he was mad, he shouted me, that he loves nudism, nude pictures of girls and also porn. i think he doesnt spend money on camgirls or prostitutes because he is greedy a bit to spend money randomly.
i scared, sometimes even women are cheap and they can be comfortable to sleep with him even without payment. i dont know. but its not acceptable for me. i feel bad and it hurts me, he cant understand this, he will never seek help, he doesnt want it.
Sadly he is cheating on you and you just don't know physical but he would if he was offered it I could never be with someone who messages anyone and on this level is disrespectful and shows no love for you. Your age doesn't matter and the love isn't there someone that loves you won't do this. Cheating on you mentally is worse then physical he's getting himself off to these people and will look at people closer to home too. If you wwnt children is this really a man you want as a role model? If your child said their partner is sexting people would you tell then it's okay and to stay with them..no.
You need more respect for yourself this man can never be trusted you have sex alot yet he's still seeking it elsewhere I feel so sorry for you. It won't last you deserve better x
