5 year old major tantrums and hitting
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Last post: 16/02/2024 at 12:48 am
I have a 5 year old boy and 7 year old girl the boy over the past 3 months has been has having tantrums over anything. He had one today because I didn't go the park he wanted sp he ended up hitting me kicking me threw chair at me trashed his room, kicked mud at his sister and tried to throw stuff at her. I don't shout at him he enjoys football so I have taken his football kits off him and stopped him going football. No punishments seems to bother him, nothing has changed at home. School mentioned to us they think he has adhd as he can be naughty in class and does not listen. We are always out somewhere doing something or with friends so it's not like he isn't being active enough. I don't know how to help him it can take a few hours for him to calm down but the violence towards us all Is getting ridiclous.
Hi Sophie
I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here on Netmums. You’ve noticed that your son is having a lot more tantrums and his behaviour more difficult to manage in the past 3 months.
School have mentioned about adhd. What do you think about that? Have you had concerns about anything like that? Have any referrals for further support been made?
In terms of managing his behaviour it is important to have consequences. However it is also important to work out what is triggering it. Is he getting over stimulated? What is happening before the tantrum? You have seen a change over a few months - is anything different?
We are here to listen and chat some more if you want to
Hi Sophie
I’m Lauren one of the parent supporters here on Netmums. You’ve noticed that your son is having a lot more tantrums and his behaviour more difficult to manage in the past 3 months.
School have mentioned about adhd. What do you think about that? Have you had concerns about anything like that? Have any referrals for further support been made?
In terms of managing his behaviour it is important to have consequences. However it is also important to work out what is triggering it. Is he getting over stimulated? What is happening before the tantrum? You have seen a change over a few months - is anything different?
We are here to listen and chat some more if you want to
School have said when they are back in next week they will arrange for us to come in and start referrals to get him diagonised. He has always had tantrums and hits us but lately it is every day. His behaviour always has consequences but if I try to talk to him when he has calmed down about what happened he gets angry again. I wouldnt say there is a particular trigger it has been silly things such as I said no to him taking a full pack of chewing gum in the car, I didn't go the park he wanted to, he was sat down stairs and we were going upstairs. And it can be any point in the day.
My son who is 6 has adhd but we been waiting 3 years to be seen he doesn't hit me or anything but adhd is like hyperactivity can't pay attention needs telling over and over things as they can forget struggling in class like can't sit still can't deal with emotions etc. Struggling with school work. Of he's just hitting etc that's just him acting out try to see his triggers before hand and distract. Adhd isn't aggressive even though they can hit etc and go from 0-100 with no warning it's much more then that too. We been waiting 3 years for assessing and it's just been rejected even though myself doctors speech therapy and teacher all agree it is that. But even with diagnosis there isn't really any help.
